Well hello there transparency! For this post, I have to be even more transparent than normal in order to get my points across, so here it goes. I have been known to hold onto something that I should have let go of a long time ago. Hi, my name is FLL and I have abandonment issues. These issues have come from years of past trauma that I have dealt with and/or am dealing with. I'm also making peace with myself that some of these things may not go away so I may have to learn how to move past them versus get over them. At least this is what my therapist told me. (Another thing I did for myself...got help.) When I find myself holding onto something or someone, I ask myself a simple question. ARE YOU HAPPY? Let me be clear because normally I don't like to use the word HAPPY because it means so many different things to different people. Can you honestly say that if you stay in it or with them that at the end of your life, on your death bed you will not have any regrets concerning the decision you made to stay in it or with them? No regrets meaning, no wondering what if...What if I left? What if I didn't go back? What if I really went after what or who I wanted? (Inserts note: This DOES NOT include something or someone that belongs to someone else! smh If someone else's name is on it or a ring is on it, it is not yours...move on...back to what I was saying.) Growing older has an interesting way of pulling your truths to the surface. To the point where people are on their death bed wishing they didn't waste time on something or someone where they knew that season was over. The other thing about growing older is, we don't like to change things unless it changes on its own beyond our control. Haven't you heard younger people question older people making drastic changes by saying, "You're old now, you might as well stick it out!" Yup, that's what older people are thinking too. Everyone must make decisions according to their comfort level. All I'm saying is that you are never too young or too old for change, especially if it is for an increased quality of life! Just don't get too far down the road and look back wishing you would have valued your happiness more. The same way you can miss something/someone and never go back is the same way that you can love something/someone and still leave. If it isn't working, it isn't working. I hope this resonates deep within you beautiful people. Until next time -FLL
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